There is nothing so disappointing as having a special dinner reservation at a romantic restaurant on Valentine’s Day to then have something unexpected spoil the mood – the parking wasn’t available, the people at the next table were talking too loud, the waiter had an attitude – there are so many things that can go wrong that it makes the thought of staying at home so much more appealing, so perfectly intimate. And because there are so many easy ways to strike the right mood for love in your own dining room it makes going out unnecessary.
Lighting is critical to set the mood and candles are a staple in the romance handbook. But make them unexpected with a dozen tea lights scattered across the table instead of a few candlesticks. Use color; your favorite, his favorite or classic red, in your tea-light holders to set off the color’s soft glow. Use your dimmer switch to turn down overhead lights and turn on your ambiance lights now as well, for a soft glow all around.
(You do have dimmer switches in your home, right? It’s an energy-saving must, but that’s a subject for another post!)
The use of color goes a long way to create just the mood you want. Red is traditional for good reason, it’s the color of love, danger and desire, but don’t limit yourself. Deep passionate purples and rich, royal blues that hint at the erotic also seduce. Incorporate your color in details within the room. These could easily be elements of your tablescape, such as scattered crystals, flower petals or even better, an item of personal significance to you as a couple. Include something out of the ordinary to make the evening memorable and special.
Use fabrics liberally by draping your table with silk that puddles at the floor. Imagine how gorgeous a silk tablecloth puddled at your feet can be, bathed in candlelight!
And don’t think your tablescape is the only place you can add romance. Move the furniture. Consider moving a small table for two in front of your lit fireplace and capture the glow of your roaring fire. Decorate the mantle with your special theme as well. Your bedroom is also a great spot to set up an intimate table for two.
If you prefer not to move a table, then put a screen up to create a more intimate space in which to eat. Pulling any day-to-day clutter and excess furnishings out of the room may seem pretty mundane, but this will make a much used room feel special.
Fresh flowers are a must for a romantic room, preferably given by your partner, but you can also purchase a bunch for your table arrangement. Cut your stems short and keep them close to the table so you can see each other across the table.
Ultimately it’s the loving details that only you can bring to the room that give it the intimacy and romance. Whether it’s a sprinkling of conversation hearts across the table or a nod to a special event in your life, a centerpiece that incorporates elements of your activities together, a shared joke or aspect to the future that you are both looking forward to, this will be remembered in a beautifully romantic room.
And if you do decide to go out to that restaurant, use any or all of these ideas anyway so the mood is sure to continue after you get home.
Happy Valentine’s Day to all of you!